Hi there

[Mel]

I am looking for people who have a relationship with a kurd.
I would love to learn more to make my boyfriend feel like "home". We are moving in together in a few weeks. Im so excited!!!
Food and recipes... , kurmanci language,.... Anything can be most helpful to me. I love him with all my heart!
Thanks in advance
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Mel

[Anthea]

I am looking for people who have a relationship with a kurd.
I would love to learn more to make my boyfriend feel like "home". We are moving in together in a few weeks. Im so excited!!!
Food and recipes... , kurmanci language,.... Anything can be most helpful to me. I love him with all my heart!
Thanks in advance
X
Mel

Welcome
I hope you will find someone to guide you on here.
It would be lovely if you could learn a few words of Kurmanci so that you can greet his family and friends in their native tongue. That would probably make him really proud of you
Is there a Kurdish restaurant near you - not a kebab shop - Kurdish home cooking is really healthy and delicious - heavy on the salad
Make friends with some of the Kurdish ladies because they LOVE to show English people how to cook

[Mel]

Welcome
I hope you will find someone to guide you on here.
It would be lovely if you could learn a few words of Kurmanci so that you can greet his family and friends in their native tongue. That would probably make him really proud of you
Is there a Kurdish restaurant near you - not a kebab shop - Kurdish home cooking is really healthy and delicious - heavy on the salad
Make friends with some of the Kurdish ladies because they LOVE to show English people how to cook [/quote]

Oh hello! Roybash. Spas for the reply. Im not english im belgian.
He allready learned me some words and i know how to greet people. But with the dictionary i have its very dofficult. Its another pronounciation then my alfabet and some full sentences are hard to find on te internet.

My boyfriend has his own kebab shop and serves some dishes on demand kurdishstyle. The dream is to open our own restaurant beause there is no kurdish restaurant in this area. Thats why i am coming here on this forum.
I really want to show his people that i can take care of him and our family in his way and my way. Every week we eat different. One week belgian the other week kurdish. So both our traditions can stay. He really does speak my language very well so i can make it up to him by doing my very best.

I can make some of the things i see on the internet like the spicy soup with lamb and the dolma... Filled vegetables with rice and meat... He loves salads and puts in everything!!!! its delicious! We made some adana together, chicken marinade ... he loves aubergines and i am experimenting a lot with the herbs that he uses but thats about it...
I really want to learn the food that kurdish people eat everyday so i can cook him different meals. And in the future in our restaurant. I dont want it to be only grill. I want some dishes that the whole family can enjoy with a visit in our place.

Looking forward hearing from you again!
Mel

[Anthea]

Hello again

There was a lovely Kurdish restaurant I used to visit. The owner want home cooked food. He employed several chefs but none of them were any good. The only way he could get proper home-made Kurdish food was to employ his sister and her husband

They could not speak a word of English but the food was so delicious that the place was always full of Kurds

I am not sure if there are any other non-Kurdish ladies with Kurdish boyfriends on this forum. Some people only look-in once every week or so.

I suggest you join in with the topics, I am sure other people will encourage you

[Shirin]

Hello again
I am not sure if there are any other non-Kurdish ladies with Kurdish boyfriends on this forum. Some people only look-in once every week or so.

Hello,

i think there should be more like Mel and myself just probably all of them is hiding
I come here just to read most of the time, but i don't have much to say. that's why i sit quiet

[Mel]

Hi there,

Nice to see a reply after a while!!
Are you together with a kurdish man for a long time? From where is he? Tell me all about it!

Everything is going well here. They have very special caracters i must say sometimes the different cultures show some trouble but the love we have for each other is bigger then a little dispute about different principals.

Ive been making our home nice and cosy. We are longing to come home everyday to enjoy it! I must say that my kurdish cuisine has expanded thanx to the help of some familymembers and friends.

Hope to read a reply soon

Have a nice evening!!!

[Shirin]

Hi there,

Nice to see a reply after a while!!
Are you together with a kurdish man for a long time? From where is he? Tell me all about it!

Everything is going well here. They have very special caracters i must say sometimes the different cultures show some trouble but the love we have for each other is bigger then a little dispute about different principals.

Ive been making our home nice and cosy. We are longing to come home everyday to enjoy it! I must say that my kurdish cuisine has expanded thanx to the help of some familymembers and friends.

Hope to read a reply soon

Have a nice evening!!!

Hi,

I'm with kurdish boy for more than two years now. We are planning to get married soon He is from Slemani, but we are living in UK. Hopefully, this summer we should be going to see his country and his family i'm really looking forward to see Kurdistan

I don't really speak kurdish myself, but i can understand quite well when others speak i hope i will improve soon, and not gonna be shy anymore to say something in kurdish everybody looks so happy, when i speak kurdish even if it is only couple words

Cooking is not a big problem in our house, i'm learning to cook kurdish food, i already know few recipies (his brother wife teach me), but my boyfriend is very happy to cook by himself as well

I could say, we don't have any problem with each other. Even though we are very different (from different countries, religions, etc..), at the same time we are very similar I really enjoy every minute spent with him, as i always learn something new. We respect, love each other and it doesn't matter if we are from the same country or not.

Honestly, before i was very scared, because i didn't know much about that side of the world. My family wasn't very happy, too, when i told them, where my boyfriend came from. But now, when i know a lot about kurdistan, i'm very happy that i fell in love with the boy from there and my family is ok now as well, after they saw how we love and respect each other and how he is good to me I hope his family will like me too They all know about me, but didn't see me yet his family don't mind if he marry european girl or kurdish, as long as he is happy they just don't look very happy that we live together not married hopefully, we will make them happy soon

How long you've been together with your boyfriend?

[Mel]

Hello shirin,

My boyfriend is from zakho. The part from Irak.
All of his nearest family still lives there or in another country. He is working together with some of his cousins and uncle. They own several kebabshops and snackbars here. Its a a good way for him to make a living but he wants to do something with me. He's tired off all the late noght "snacking" and having not much time with us.

We know each other almost 8years but we've been together a year. We both had a different relationship that didnt turn out so well... He has 3 sons with another belgian woman and i have a daughter. But his 3 sons stay with us now. I still have a fulltime job and take care of the children.
It has been more then difficult to be honest about our feelings for each other and it took us a long time to realize that its better to take no care about what people think and live together then to be unhappy without eachother.
When his family realized that we really made effort and respect for each other they took me inside their hearts too. He never kept me hidden from them. He kept on pushing me in their minds haha.
It doesnt seem like a good story when u read it like this... but trust me. It took us a long way to be where we are now and that makes this love so special.

I only skype with his mother and sisters and visited his young sister in sweden a few months ago for the wedding. They are very nice with me. His mother is very clear and openminded too. you choose another girl now stay with her... She looks responsible enough... Send her over to learn about us more, marry here and then make me a granddaughter. Haha

First thing on the plan is to look for a nice venue to begin our bussiness together.

He is jezidi. What religion is your kurdish boyfriend?

[Shirin]

Hello shirin,
He is jezidi. What religion is your kurdish boyfriend?

Hi there,

oh, your story looks really interesting and complicated, but i hope everything will be fine for you two now

my boyfriend is muslim, but not very religious one anyway, i don't mind that. i respect his religion, he respects mine. I do read a lot about islam, to know more about his beliefs. If i have any questions, i always ask him. He is more than happy to explain everything to me, but he never pushed or asked me to convert to islam

[Mel]

Hi shirin,

You cant be pushed to be muslim.
You have to want it yourself.
My boyfriend respects my religion too.
It looks complicated i know.
But for us its heaven to finally be together.

I must say that mine is not as religious too...haha
But it is interesting to see and experience another religion.

I am catholique and there is not so much difference i think. Same values, same commandments.

How have you met your boyfriend? Where are you from?

X
Mel

[Shirin]

Hi shirin,

You cant be pushed to be muslim.
You have to want it yourself.
My boyfriend respects my religion too.
It looks complicated i know.
But for us its heaven to finally be together.

I must say that mine is not as religious too...haha
But it is interesting to see and experience another religion.

I am catholique and there is not so much difference i think. Same values, same commandments.

How have you met your boyfriend? Where are you from?
X
Mel

Hi Mel,

Originally I'm from lithuania, but as i mentioned before, we live in uk now

The story how we met sounds almost same like all these children fairytales, ha ha I didn't have to search for him, as he came to my home (like a prince on white horse ) but that day i was very upset, all day crying, feeling and looking horrible. When i saw him i was thinking oh, he's very nice boy, but anyway, i look horrible today, so nobody would like me looking like this. but, to my suprise, he did like me he stayed with me that night till to 4am, trying to make me stop crying. He left my home only after i promised him that i will go to sleep and not gonna cry anymore
Next morning he was waiting outside my house again, took me out to cheer me up. Later that day he brought me nice bunch of flowers with the small card in it: 'always love you' it was very strange for me, how somebody can talk about love when we know each other only for one day i didn't trust him, i thought he was joking but when we spent more time together, when we got to know each other, everything just came out fine i still keep this 'always love you' card in our home now and it just remainds me of one famous quotation:'the best things happen when you least expect them'

[Nubahar]

hi! and
welcome.
and i can speak a good kurmanji. i can help you all about Kurmanci and your another social and culturel info

[Shirin]

hey, maybe someone would like to help me with sorani? i was trying to find some books or newspaper, or anyting else in sorani with latin script, but no any luck so far the best way to learn any language for me is to read the books and translate all new words that's why i would really appreciate any help with learning material

[Mel]

I have to say shirin that i find it so hard to find kurmanci!
I found tons and tons of sorani books but not any useful kurmanci...
My boyfriend keeps on speaking kurdish with me and the kids at home and i think i look like a fool sometimes when i stare at him ...

[Shirin]

and all books i found was in kurmanji

My boyfriend always talking to me in kurdish, as well as his brother and his wife, i understand what they say, but i answer them in english i could answer in kurdish, but i'm shy to make any mistake